For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age, while we wait for the blessed hope—the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own, eager to do what is good. These, then, are the things you should teach. Encourage and rebuke with all authority. Do not let anyone despise you. Titus 2:11-15 NIV
When people make excuses for living in opposition to God’s Word, it is because they have either not been taught how to live The Word of God or they simply choose not to do so.
If parents live an ungodly life before their children and all the children ever see is ungodliness around them, there is a great likelihood that the child will think that ungodliness is normal. We tend to think what we’ve have seen is all there is and unfortunately, for some children, ungodliness is all they will ever see. And for these we pray–that some day soon–they will see others live Godly lives and want to change their ways.
What do children see that is not of God? They see parents engrossed in all types of negative behaviors–watching porn on television, leaving bedroom doors open so the kids see all they should not see. They see parents getting high on drugs and selling drugs, and dealing in illegal activities–openly. They see parents start fights and brawls over trivial matters and they see parents set fires to home simply because they were evicted. They see parents cuss at anyone who dares to cross them or disagree with them. They hear parents when they lie and know when they are lying. And all of the ungodliness they see–becomes a part of their lives when they become adults and the cycle begins again.
If we understand the behavioral cycles that have led to the demise of respect and peace in our communications, we will see the need to teach better behaviors. There is but one simple rule to govern what we do–LOVE–and if we love–self and others–we can say, “No” to all ungodliness. If we teach children to respect others by showing them how we respect others, we can eliminate a lot of the violence in our society. Much of it is caused by a lack of respect–for self and others–especially when people think they have a right to infringe upon the rights of others–without consequences.
We are told in The Word that whatever we sow (plant), that is all we can expect to see. If we plant the seeds of ungodly behavior in our children, then all we can expect is ungodly behavior. If we plant Godliness (nurturing it our own behavior as a living testimony), then we’ll see Godliness in our children.
We have to remember that children are not stupid nor blind. They see much more than we think they see and they imitate what they see. So before we get upset with our children and others around, we need to reflect upon our own behavior. Are we saying, “No” to ungodliness or have we deceived ourselves into thinking there is nothing wrong with us?
Getting into The Word on a daily basis and seeking God’s Wisdom, puts us on the right path to living Godly lives before Him and others–alleviating any need to be ashamed of what we do–in the eye of the public or in our private lives. Please God–not man–and say no, to all ungodliness!